Focus on what you want to happen next
Life is what you make it.
When you celebrate life, your experience will be more goodness. Curse life and all you'll see are the challenges.
What I have learned is to use challenges as stepping stones rather than as stumbling blocks -- I use them to make me stronger. Make it your conscious choice to turn those lemons into sweet lemonade, too.
If someone died or something ended, grieve the loss and learn to honor the memories. Whatever you do, grieve to release the pain so you can use the wound as a source of strength. (Read that post here.)
"Today I choose life. Every morning when I wake up I can choose joy, happiness, negativity, pain... To feel the freedom that comes from being able to continue to make mistakes and choices - today I choose to feel life, not to deny my humanity but embrace it." - Kevyn Aucoin
One of the ways I've learned to see the glass as potentially full (rather than half empty) is through photography. (And yes, I teach how to do that here.) I look for the beautiful moments that happen every day. These are often the moments easily missed when rushing from goal to goal -- moments missed in the blur of confusion.
I seek out beauty on purpose and in order to remind myself that my life is better than the negative voice in my head would lead me to believe. I also do my best to remember the happy parts of my life. (Read that post here.)
Rather than to rush through your day on auto-pilot, only to feel depleted at the end of the day, stretch those beautiful moments into soothing, happy events. That means to turn a short walk in the park into an opportunity to slow down and to appreciate the beauty that Mother Nature has provided. And to savor that cup of tea or coffee rather than to gulp it down. In short, nurture yourself. (Read that post here.)
Enjoy seeing the dandelions, stinging nettle and all the other "weeds" because, hey, they are flowers, too. See the beauty all around you. Enjoy it.
Ease deeper into the new life you're creating for yourself. Focus on what you want to happen next. Allow yourself to have it.
Here's the summary:
1. Learn to see the possibilities.
2. Train your mind to focus on what you want to happen.
3. Take action towards creating the possibility you want to experience.