Opening up to what's next

The trick is to allow it

Iktsuarpok is an Inuit word for the feeling of anticipation when you’re waiting for someone to show up at your house and you keep going outside to see if they’ve arrived yet.

The word can also be applied to life and accomplishing your goals. Good things are coming and can arrive at any moment, so anticipate them coming — and enjoy the anticipation — because it’s not a question IF you will reach your goals, but WHEN. Trust your path and know you will do it as long as you keep taking steps. Believe, know, and trust that you can.

The beauty of trusting in yourself and in your path — and having that inner knowing — is that you can relax and open up to the good stuff that’s coming. But what do you do if you’re having trouble getting into a state of allowing? What if anxiety takes over and you start to doubt? The answer is to find your center.

"Don't let any place that you are standing frighten you. All it is, is a byproduct of some energy alignment, which only gives you stronger clarity about what you want — and, most importantly, greater sensitivity about whether you're in a receiving mode or locked off of it.” — Abraham-Hicks


When you're struggling and need to recenter yourself, find a time in your life when you DID feel centered and focus on how that felt. Re-live the moment when you felt on top of the world and could handle anything. Hone in on that feeling the way you would tune into a radio station. Find the frequency and envelop yourself in it, as often as needed, until you make that your dominant frequency. This is how you open up to your next steps — by feeling good and holding a positive image of yourself in your mind's eye.

Remember, it’s not a question IF you will reach your goals, it's merely a question of WHEN. Because as long as you keep taking steps, you will get there sooner or later. It doesn't matter what kind of steps you take as long as you keep moving towards your dream by taking actions and correcting course. Belief will come with each step you take, and this will help you relax and open up.

Take it into your heart that living life is not the same as running a race. It’s not all about accomplishing big things. Life is more than ticking off boxes on your to-do list — life is also about enjoying the little things in life, like the sound of laughter, birds chirping, and cats purring. Life is in the details. This means you don't have to run through life, nor do you have to push, push, push to accomplish the goals you set.

“If we can just let go and trust that things will work out the way they're supposed to, without trying to control the outcome, then we can begin to enjoy the moment more fully. The joy of the freedom it brings becomes more pleasurable than the experience itself.” — Goldie Hawn


Every day get yourself into a good feeling and picture yourself achieving your next step with ease.

Be good to yourself.
Speak kind thoughts to yourself.
Nurture yourself.
Acknowledge yourself.
Have compassion for yourself.
And find the blessing in the challenges in your life.

This is how you open up to your next steps and allow them to come to fruition.

“The lotus is the most beautiful flower, whose petals open one by one. But it will only grow in the mud. In order to grow and gain wisdom, first you must have the mud — the obstacles of life and its suffering. ... The mud speaks of the common ground that humans share, no matter what our stations in life. ... Whether we have it all or we have nothing, we are all faced with the same obstacles: sadness, loss, illness, dying and death. If we are to strive as human beings to gain more wisdom, more kindness and more compassion, we must have the intention to grow as a lotus and open each petal one by one. ” — Goldie Hawn


Now for a question: when was the last time you acknowledged and appreciated yourself? That's right: you. Not your spouse, not your children, friends, boss, or coworkers. Just you.

Nurture is a form of self-care. It is the process of caring for and encouraging the growth or development of someone or something. Self-acknowledgment and self-appreciation are forms of nurture. They are what give you the insights and awareness to move forward toward higher goals and accomplishments.

When you think about your accomplishments, don’t just think of the big ones. Include the little ones, such as taking time out to laugh, clear your head, and just breathe. Include the intimate conversation with your spouse last night, reconnecting with an old friend last month, and the quality time you spent with your kids today. These are the deeply satisfying moments that make up a life.

When you acknowledge your successes, you create ease in your life, fuel your energy, and boost your confidence and creativity. It also allows you to open up to your next steps.

Feeling good about yourself creates healthy self-esteem, which leads to a life of greater ease. Allow yourself to have it.